Stay Hungry my Friends

I love the 2nd H of my new book H3 Leadership. The idea of HUNGRY.

Staying HUNGRY as a leader.

Realizing you haven't "arrived" yet, and you never will.

Realizing that true H3 leaders are learners, and learners turn into leaders.

Realizing that true H3 leaders are readers, and readers make better leaders.

Realizing that true H3 leaders constantly have a posture of getting better. 

Realizing that true H3 leaders are consistently curious.

Realizing that true H3 leaders develop a healthy ambition that pushes you and creates an appetite for what's next. 

Realizing that true H3 leaders actually embrace change and innovation, because out of true innovation true change occurs, and change leads to growth, and growth leads to fruit, and fruit leads to transformation. 

A HUNGRY leader always has the posture of being the humble 2nd, compared to the arrogant 1st, even when you are the 1st. 

Commit today to being a leader who always Stays HUNGRY.

 

Young Influencers List October edition

Here you go, the October edition of the Young Influencers List. You can see all the past month's lists and editions here

1. Daniel Murphy- 2nd baseman for New York Mets, who recently set a record for 6 home runs over six games in the playoffs. Check out this video of him sharing a bit of his story. 

2. Meredith Andrews- singer, songwriter, and worship leader, and part of the Vertical Church band. 

3. Jarryd HayneAustralian born Rugby professional, and now NFL football player for the San Francisco 49ers. 

4. Branden Harvey- Portland and Nashville based storyteller, photographer, Snapchat sensation, and overall social media strategist with Clif Bar, Smart Car and more. . 

5. Liz Vice - filmmaker, singer, songwriter, and artist. CT describes her as if "Al Green and Adele got together to sing about Jesus." 

6. Ryan Graves- senior vice president of global operations at Uber, one of my favorite new orgs, and greatest apps of all time! 

7. Lindsay Van Zyldirector of marketing for Catalyst

60 Keys on Leading the Next Generation

Here are 60 Keys, Issues and Areas to be aware of and Focused in on as it relates to the Next Generation of Leaders, primarily those currently in their 20's and 30's. 

1. Value connection to a/the community. Friendships matter, relationships are important, and will move towards a family atmosphere. Relationships matter. 

2. Find tremendous power in storytelling.

3. Has to be authentic- don't trust things that seem to polished or perfect. Constantly have BS sniffers on high. Authentic wins.

4. Value in the small and entrepreneurial, compared to the large, corporate and powerful. Don't automatically trust an institution or brand because it's well known. 

5. Connection over networking.

6. Community over individual. Community matters deeply. Relationships win. 

7. Collaboration and partnership are crucial- will have Chief Partnership Officers soon in most companies because of the importance of working with other organizations.

8. Free agency is in. Long careers with the same organization are phasing out. 

9. Global mindset- boundaries and travel no longer a barrier. See the world as attainable.

10. All about the experience. 

11. Want the true authentic experience and are willing to pay more for that. 

12. All things are social. Social is the foundation for life and leadership. Everything is social, and social media dominates, along with social justice, social innovation, and social clubs. 

13. Deeper purpose and meaning must be evident.

14. Triple bottom line matters. Has to be more to the organization than just making money and providing bonuses. 

15. Stay in hostels or airbnb compared to big hotel chains. 

16. Value new, danger, and risky, compared to safety, comfort and familiar. 

17. Overwhelmed by advertising, and will only buy something because of the story and meaning and connection to a higher purpose. Don't just buy something because it's number 1 or the most known option.

18. Strong connection to the unique and local community- connect to farmers who are local, vs the big powerful food companies. Also value the entrepreneur. Food co-ops and farmers markets are in vogue.

19. Unfinished, raw and original valued way higher than smooth, slick and polished.

20. DIY- do it yourself has never been more popular and on the radar. 

21. Not willing to wait- want to lead and influence now. 20 somethings won't stand in line or wait their turn. Waiting to lead is no longer an option, whether 20 or 30 or 40. Stepping in to major roles of leadership earlier than any other generation before them.

22. Want to be part of the ideation and decision making process. If you want them to be bought in, they must be brought in. Allow young leaders to be part of building it.

23. Vision must be global and local. Glocal. big enough to inspire, small enough to connect personally. big with vision, small with target.

24. Life is on display- everything is public because lives and experiences are broadcasted via social media for all to see. 

25. Trust and honesty is incredibly important because so many things are fake. Transparency truly matters. Want to know something is the real thing and that i'm seeing through the facade and veneer to get the real view and perspective.

26. Sustainability and local artisans and local empowered owners and merchants.

27. Incubator mentality, meaning that everything is part of the education process, and the entire community is part of learning. Many ideas are being constantly cooked up at once. 

28. Focus on excellence. Because of so many choices and options, the best will truly rise to the top.

29. Custom design and custom experience is crucial- think Uber. netflix. spotify. On demand is vogue. Now there is a dating website for Un of Kentucky fans. So went from meeting people in a bar, to meeting online, to meeting certain kinds of people online.

30. No middleman. Want to control the process, and the message, and the voice. Players Tribune in pro sports, Airbnb in hotel industry, Amazon in books and merchandise, the demise of travel agents, etc.

31. Makers are in vogue. Authentic do it yourself made at home or vintage is totally in.

32. Formal press releases are a thing of the past- now you release the info on twitter or instagram or Facebook or linkedin.

33. City and metro compared to rural and farm- younger moving to the cities to live, and vacationing to the farm. 

34. Flat management structure. Hierarchy is out. Holocracy is in. Accountability now rests at every level and continues to be pushed to the lowest and furthest parts of the organization. 

35. Instant feedback is not just expected, it's required. Feedback and communication is expected to be frequent, faster and app enabled and driven.

36. The annual review is going away. New economy of leaders expects instant and constant feedback.

37. Expect their leader to be besides the team, not in front. Leaders must be in the trenches with the team, not in the ivory tower espousing wisdom.

38. Leadership is direct to customer. The middleman in many industries has been removed. Think Uber, Warby Parke, Harry's, and Amazon 

39. Shift from product based economy to subscription based economy. move from product to community.

40. Focus on the future vs focusing on the past. Vision, meetings and reviews are more about looking forward than looking back. Hope in the future instead of judgement of the past.

41. Instead of command and control, today's leadership looks more like developing, mentoring, coaching, connection and inspiration.

42. Coaching and counseling is expected from leaders today instead of a boss mentality. Being a brother compared to being a boss. 

43. Collaboration is crucial, and popular. Want to build bridges, not walls. More about what we have in common compared to what we disagree on. 

44. Not tremendously tied to partisan politics. Don't naturally connect to a political party just because of history, family, or religious affiliation, but instead connect to a person or values of that person. Don't just vote party lines anymore.

45. Life is holistic. Life is work, and work is life. 

46. Constantly in pursuit of connecting calling and vocation.

47. Power in the people- the tribe rules and leads. The tribe, network and community are now in control. The rise of the tribe means that the leader is now a shepherd, instead of a dictator and general. 

48. Honesty, transparency, self awareness and vulnerability are required characteristics of leaders that are leading the next generation. Share your own story constantly, with all of its flaws and mistakes. 

49. Content is a commodity, so conversations must be a part of the equation, not just talking. 

51. Reverse mentoring now occurs consistently, with young leaders mentoring older leaders. This is the first generation that "knows" more than the generation before them. 

52. Free agent nation. This is the free agent generation, with more and more young leaders "project based" instead of full time. 

53. Self employed reality is now creating greater accountability for individuals, as it's no longer easy to simply be lost in an organization. 

54. Succession, legacy and transition are happening earlier and often as entrepreneurial ventures must be handed off quickly in order to start the next venture. 

55. Mobile mentality as can Work from anywhere- life, leadership and career are mobile. The office is now wherever you have a plug in and wireless connection. 

56. Influence is everywhere. Everyone has influence, and the 25 year old blogger at home in the basement can now impact more people arguably than the 30 year veteran writer and speaker who has been plowing for decades. 

57. Move towards FREE- everything flows towards free today. Open source is commonplace, and free is expected, especially online. 

58. Connection to a cause. Must focus on the why as much as the what. Want to connect to a larger and greater story. 

59. Inspire them, don't just manage them. Listen to them. They want to be heard. Give value to their voice. Amplify their message. 

60. Paint a vision and a picture of the future that is large and includes room for them to participate, inclusive of a brush for them to help paint it with you. 

**BONUS: Don't refer to the next generation as "Millenials." It's not necessarily a badge of honor and courage. 

October Brad Recommends List

A brand new list I am creating, The "Brad Recommends" List

Releasing monthly. With my recommendation on new resources, albums, books, websites and more. 

There will be 4 categories each month with the Brad Recommends list. 

Books

1. The Comeback - by Louie Giglio 

2. Live Love Lead - by Brian Houston

3. #Struggle - by Craig Groeschel 

4. Sandcastle Kings- by Rich Wilkerson Jr. 

5. Intentional Living - by John Maxwell 

** bonus ::  H3 Leadership - by ME!! 

Podcasts

1. Joshua Gagnon Leadership Podcast

2. 5 Leadership Questions Podcast

3. Dose of Leadership

4. Here's the Thing with Alec Baldwin

5. Coffee with Chris Caine

Blogs/Websites

1. Unsplash.com

2. Bill Blankschaen (Faithwalkers)

3. Matt Brown (Think Eternity)

4. ISideWith.com

5. Medium.com

Music

1. Deluxe Edition - Pentatonix

2. MSC (Live in LA) - Mosaic MSC

3. Open Heaven/River Wild- Hillsong Worship 

4. The Wonderlands - Jon Foreman

5. This Glorious Grace- Austin Stone Worship 

5 Tips on How to Have that Critical Conversation You're Too Afraid to Have

By Carey Nieuwhof

Pastor, Connexus Church and Author of Lasting Impact: 7 Powerful Conversations That Will Help Your Church Grow

There are always conversations you need to have but you don’t know how to have. It’s true in life and it’s very true in leadership.

How do you talk about the fact that so much needs to change in your church?

How do you get your somewhat resistant board to open their minds to new possibilities?

As a leader, you’ve probably already flagged more than a few issues you would love to talk about with your team.  Issues such as:

Why is our church not growing faster?

How healthy is our team (really)?

Why is it so hard to attract and keep high capacity volunteers?

What’s happening in our culture that we might not be responding to?

What are we actually prepared to change around here?

Maybe the future belongs to the churches that are willing to have the most honest conversations at a critical time. That's what my new book, Lasting Impact is designed to facilitate.

So, how do you get started? What do you say? And what happens if people disagree or things get heated?

5 Tips on How to Have That Critical Conversation You're Too Afraid to Have

Here are 5 tips that can help.

1. Frame the issue thoughtfully and in advance

 People hate to be caught off guard by a challenging conversation.

Understanding what’s on the table before you get to the table helps so much.

If you’re talking about a chronic issue that your church needs to address or a topic that can help lead you into a better future, framing the issue well and framing it in advance is critical. It helps everyone show up having thought through what’s at stake.

2. Stay clear about what you’re discussing

I personally find one of the greatest challenges of having conversations with leaders is keeping people focused.

How do you combat that? Write down the exact points you want to cover to keep you and your team focused.

And don’t just keep it to yourself. State what you hope to accomplish in the meeting so when you leave you know you made progress.

If you know ahead of time what you want to accomplish, you are far more likely to accomplish it. People will also feel their time has been much better spent. 

3. Attack problems, not people

If you’re really having an intense discussion (and you should be having these if you want to make progress), emotions may get heated.

When they do, make sure you attack problems, not people. It can be so easy to personalize conflict. We do it in our marriages all the time when we say things like “You always…” or “You never…”.

Big mistake.

Let the people you’re talking with know that you’re for them, and what you’re trying to do is to attack a problem together

4. Empathize with opposing views

I went to law school. It’s instinctive to me to dismiss an opposing point of view immediately. I can even come up with 5 reasons why their idea is a bad idea pretty quickly.

But when you do that, you don’t gain ground; you lose it.

A better approach is to actually show empathy for the opposing point of view.

Instead of saying “I can’t believe you won’t let that tradition go. That’s crazy!” what about saying “I can understand why that would be difficult to give that up. I’m sure if I were in your shoes, I would feel the same way. But what do you think about the people we’re trying to reach? Do you think our old strategy is the best strategy with which to engage them?”

Do you see the difference?

5. Find an outside voice to help

It’s one thing for you as a leader to float your ideas. And often you need to do that.

But it can also create tension because many leaders end up defending their ideas.

As a result, again and again in my time in leadership, I’ve solicited outside voices to help us arrive in a new place as a team.

The least expensive way to find an outside voice? Read a book together. Our teams have read many books together over the years.

That’s Why I Wrote Lasting Impact

When I wrote Lasting Impact, I crafted every chapter with team discussion in mind.

I hope the book can give teams and boards a chance to agree or disagree with someone who’s not the room in the hopes that you can agree together on what God is calling you to do next. Plus, I tried to cover the 7 issues almost every church of every size needs to tackle as they try to move forward.

As a special bonus, if you order your copy of Lasting Impact between October 6th and October 13th, you’ll get the free audio version of the book for free. Just go to www.lastingimpactbook.com after you order and fill out the bonus claim form.

Here’s hoping your future is filled with great conversations that will move your mission forward.